{"id":3128,"date":"2020-04-30T11:37:08","date_gmt":"2020-04-30T10:37:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.iese.edu\/expatriatus\/?p=3128"},"modified":"2020-04-30T11:37:08","modified_gmt":"2020-04-30T10:37:08","slug":"lets-maintain-our-physical-but-not-psychological-distance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.iese.edu\/expatriatus\/2020\/04\/30\/lets-maintain-our-physical-but-not-psychological-distance\/","title":{"rendered":"Let\u2019s maintain our physical, but not psychological distance!"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Image by Gordon Johnson from Pixabay<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

As another month of home confinement to fight the COVID-19 pandemic comes to an end, many of us have probably come to terms with the situation, or rather, our handling of it. Some of us may even feel well adapted by now? Or did we just get accustomed to an ongoing struggle? Are the feelings of isolation, melancholy and dismay becoming old news or are we becoming more numb to them? How well indeed do we handle the ongoing situation?<\/p>\n

What got me thinking about these questions was Oliver Jeffers\u2019 children\u2019s book \u201cThe Heart and the Bottle\u201d, to whose live reading I listened to together with my two daughters one evening. In this story Jeffers speaks of a little girl whose head was filled with all the curiosities of the world, which she would explore together with her paternal figure \u2013 until one day he was not there anymore. To cope with her sadness she decides to put her heart in a bottle, which seems to help at first. And yet, by doing so she loses her joy and meaning in life. Only when one day\u2014as a grown-up\u2014she meets a curious little girl she decides to take her heart out of the bottle again. Unable to pull it out of the bottle herself, she requires help from the little girl.<\/p>\n

As I thought about this wonderful metaphor, it struck me that we may be currently coping by bottling our own emotions, be it in a family or work context. Speaking of the latter, let\u2019s think about the virtual work reality that many of us share at the moment\u2026 How connected do you feel to your colleagues in a Skype or Zoom meeting? How personal and \u2018alive\u2019 are these virtual interactions? A recent article<\/a> by Steve Hickman, clinical psychologist and executive director of the Center for Mindful Self-Compassion, suggests that many of us can experience \u2018Zoom exhaustion\u2019 and frustration of what he calls \u2018disconnected connection\u2019 and \u2018absent presence\u2019. Indeed, although digital platforms connect us to others, emotionally we can still experience an absence of the self or others in the interaction. Just think about the online meetings in which you or others try to be efficient and rush \u2018right to the point\u2019, where there is no coffee break and chat time, where people are checking their e-mails while listening to someone\u2019s presentation, where you are talking to either static profile pictures or black screens, with occasional emerging voices\u2026 We might not be actively frustrated with the lack of face-to-face interaction anymore, yet we might all be keeping our hearts in a bottle and lack the joy and liveliness in our jobs.<\/p>\n

Naturally, remote work is not a new phenomenon. Yet, the current crisis might have provided the necessary push to take up the challenge of decreasing this absent presence and making virtual connections as close as possible to the deep, high-quality and effective work relationships we have in the office. Based on my years of researching virtual teams, let me outline some of the relevant suggestions here:<\/p>\n